Without You I Wouldn’t Be Whole

We are not islands. We do not live alone. We can’t get by a single day without the help of so many known and unknown people we could never begin to calculate the community that holds our life in her hands.

Just consider the cup of tea or coffee you may have in the morning. Someone planted the coffee, tended it, harvested it, roasted it, shipped it, packaged it, and sold it.  And not just one person but a whole myriad of people had a hand in this. Your cup came from somewhere. If you are really lucky like me, your brother made it with his hands and the use of a wheel and kiln.

Someone made the chair you sit in to drink your coffee, the table where you set your cup down. And this isn’t even accounting for the cream or sugar.  And we aren’t even talking about the gift of all the material, all the soil and plant life and sun and air that made all aspects of your morning coffee experience possible. And maybe you didn’t sit alone but had the company of another person, the presence of someone to sit with or talk with, or you read a book and found the company of another in this way.

And each of your actions today, large and small, in breath and out breath, are contributing to this community, bringing something to the communal table. It is worth considering what we want to bring to the communal table, since we all bring something. But today I’m not going to talk about this. Today I just want to speak in praise of the communal table, and in particular, give thanks for a community that has been inspiring me, helping me, getting me up in the morning and putting me to bed at night, without knowing what they were giving me, but giving it to me none-the-less.

This is the community of bloggers.

Nine months ago I decided to start a blog. Seven months ago I started a blog. Very slowly I’ve been exploring this new form, beginning to make it my own, and realizing I’m not alone. I’m discovering a blog community: a whole world of people making connections, reimagining how to live and what is possible, generously sharing energy and information, and questioning, reframing, and fundamentally shifting how we understand community, economy, and conversation.

I’m not sure I’ve yet found my perfect blog tribe out there, but I’ve definitely found my imperfect one. And this one suits me very well. I want to mention here a few of the bloggers that have either shown me what a blog can be or kept me from quitting entirely in the past months. And now that I’m beginning to understand how a blog is not one coversation, but a thread in many conversations, I’m more excited than ever about the work of weaving.

  • I found Marianne Elliott (Zen Peacekeeper. Change-maker.) very early on and was moved to find a woman writing about taking risks and living in (and loving) her body.
  • I came across Manal more recently (and her blog One With Now) and was relieved to find another blogger not promising to make life easy, admitting we can’t be fixed, and encouraging us to discover the power of presence.
  • Brené Brown gave me the Perfect Protest, and then a lot of encouragement that the world is looking for more voices to support all of us to love our imperfect lives.
  • Leo Babauta helped me clean up my inbox, but more importantly has modeled integrity in the blogosphere and it is this that has me continuing to visit his blogs over and over again.

I have a lot more voices to share, but since I’m actually hoping you will take a look at some of these sites I don’t want to overwhelm you (as I so often am) with too many blogs to read.

  • But I must just mention my most recent blogger find: Kelly Diels and her blog Cleavage.  I shyly admit, I have an enormous crush on her and her blog. She has opened up all the doors in my blog imagination house and inspired me to make the conversation more real, more interesting, and more accessible. And reminded me I’m not stuck. If you go to her page, be sure to read the comment sections: a very smart, thoughtful conversation is taking place there.

The world was made for us and we were made for the world. May we live our lives in service to this world, and remember where our wholeness comes from.

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Marianne November 15, 2010 at 3:22 pm

Thank you so much for your kind words Jasmine! I am also, as you know, a huge fan of Brene’s writing and her all-round Brene-ness and I also LOVE Kelly Diels’ writing.

I’ve come across Jonathan and Leo many times, but what a treat to find some new blogs and writers to check out.

And I love, love, love this sentence: “The world was made for us and we were made for the world. May we live our lives in service to this world, and remember where our wholeness comes from.” Amen to that.


Jasmine November 16, 2010 at 12:00 pm


Thanks. Even though I’ve been sneaking around in blog land now for months, I’ve been scared to come out from under my blankets and really be part of blog land. I don’t know what has been holding me back, and I won’t worry about it. This month my heart has been opening in new ways and maybe this is what I needed to feel ready to fully embrace and participate in this community.

Thank you so much for sharing The Girl Effect and everything else you share. Let’s rock this world from the inside out.


Kelly Salasin November 17, 2010 at 2:50 pm

Long ago a friend slipped me a little blue card with this URL, saying that she thought you and I would be kindred souls. I think she may even be your cousin…Susan or Rachel (I can’t remember which now)?

Anyway, I’m glad I finally found my way here because I love your voice and your direction…

Though I’ve listed my spiritual/life path blog, Two Owls Calling, above; this blog is my mother one: http://kellysalasin.wordpress.com/

from the Green Mountains of Vermont


Jasmine November 17, 2010 at 7:56 pm

Thanks Kelly. I think Susan may have given you the card—she gave me your URL. But Rachel is my cousin. I’m very lucky in the cousin department.

Thanks for sharing your mother blog. I mentioned my sister’s blog above—which is about more than being a mother, but also about being a mother.

I don’t have kids of my own and so find other ways to mother. Like being an aunt and raising money for girls—which I write about in my most recent post.

I think we may be kindred souls as well. Even if you must get a job soon, I hope you will continue your blogs so I can continue to listen to your voice.



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